Many feel entitled and want “the best of both worlds” there are few who feel suffocated in heterosexual marriages but have no courage to come out. It’s been over a decade since I started dating men and most middle-aged ones come with the “married” tag. About to turn 30, I was not sure of my sexuality. All the men I found desirable on gay dating sites were married and I was done vacillating. Though I felt like a conspirator in this act of betraying his wife, I had few options. That he was married felt perfect back then, a surety that he would be discreet and restrained unlike the flamboyant and proud gay men I was wary of. We had liked each other’s profiles – images were exchanged over Planet Romeo, a social network for queer people, and were chatting for more than a week. This was my orientation into same-sex relationships and V was eager to be my guide. This was back in 2011 and my first date with a man. “We can meet today after office and see how things go,” V said over the phone.
