For him, being a total top contributed deeply to his character. I deduced that his absolute refusal to bottom-paired with always paying, driving, and doing handy-work around my house (despite expressing that I’d like to do these things, too)-was a complex of sorts. In addition, he inexplicably never wanted to frequent queer spaces, insisting the community was toxic while assuring me I “wasn’t missing anything.” He was a man of mystery and that is what initially drew me to him.īut there was one thing about him that I knew for certain. However, due to various factors, we never had penetrative sex, which ultimately led him to stray.
The first man I ever dated identified as a “total top.” He was 20 years my senior, had a reputation for fucking guys in gym showers, and, fittingly, broke up with me because I was keeping him from the gym.įresh out of the closet, I was eager and terrified to explore all aspects of my newly realized sexuality with him.
